Been pondering something lately while chatting with women at my favorite corner café in Chorlton. ☕ It’s fascinating how differently we interpret affection based on our upbringing. Last week, I sat with two friends – both bright, accomplished women about […]
Dating - Sophia Rivera
I’m Falling for the Dating App Illusion: Here’s What I’m Really Getting Into
Why Your Dating Profile Is a Beautiful Lie 🎭 Research consistently shows that nearly everyone engages in some form of deception on dating apps. This isn’t necessarily malicious—it’s a natural extension of how emotional bytes work. Our brains construct simplified […]
Dating - Heartbreak - Lola Adams
The Emotional Messaging Script We Can’t Stop Running
Friday night at The Whisper Lounge. Sarah sits in our regular corner booth, spinning her empty martini glass by the stem, recounting how she spent twenty minutes crafting the perfect “casual” text to the guy who never responded to her […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’ve Watched Countless Female Friendships Implode, and I’ve Come to a Stunning Realization
There’s a particular breed of social warfare that happens when female friendships implode, and watching it unfold is like witnessing a carefully choreographed demolition. The precision is almost artistic—every social connection severed with surgical accuracy, every mutual friend recruited as […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’m Learning to Set Boundaries Without the Guilt.
There I was, sitting in my favorite café on East 67th, watching Sarah—a brilliant corporate lawyer who’d just negotiated a merger worth more than most people’s entire net worth—agonize over whether she was a terrible person for wanting to […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’ve Spent Two Decades Studying Attraction, and I’ve Come to a Surprising Conclusion: It’s Not About Being Good or Bad, It’s About Presence
Picture this: You’re at that wine bar on the Upper East Side where the lighting makes everyone look mysteriously attractive and the conversation flows as smoothly as the overpriced Sancerre. Across from you sits someone who checks every box on […]
Dating - Lola Adams
“Your Dating Life’s Groundhog Day”
She sits across from me, late-thirties, fingernails tapping on her Manhattan whiskey neat. “I attract emotionally unavailable men like I’ve got some kind of beacon. Last night I found myself googling his ex at 2 AM while he slept next […]
Dating - Heartbreak - Lola Adams
“I’m Dating My Issues Again”
She’s standing at the corner of West 4th and Sixth, coffee in hand, scrolling through her phone. It’s the fourth first date she’s had this month. Each one started with promise, built to what seemed like real connection, then evaporated […]
Dating - Lola Adams
“I’m Swiping Blind to Insanity”
It’s 11:42 PM on a Tuesday, and you’re swiping through dating profiles with the enthusiasm of someone filing their taxes. Each face blurs into the next as you mechanically judge strangers based on carefully curated photos and bios that read […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’m Dating Myself Wrong
Picture it: happy hour, midtown Manhattan. You’re perched on an overpriced barstool, listening to your friend describe their fifth mediocre date this month. “They were perfectly nice,” they sigh, swirling an artisanal cocktail. “Great job, attractive, funny. But I just […]