The Weight We Carry 🤍 There’s something particular about how women navigate the space between their own needs and someone else’s silence. We’re taught early to read the room, to adjust ourselves like light dimming on a rheostat. And when […]
In the Therapy Room - Monica Dean
In the Therapy Room: Invisible Labor in Relationships
The Exhaustion of Making Yourself Smaller đź’” There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from loving someone while simultaneously trying to make yourself smaller. It’s not the tiredness of actual work—it’s the fatigue of constant translation, the endless effort […]
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In the Therapy Room: Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder
I met Thayer on a Tuesday evening in late autumn, the sort of evening when Manchester’s grey sky feels personal rather than meteorological. “I don’t know how to explain this without sounding pathetic,” Thayer said within the first five minutes. […]
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In the Therapy Room: Developing Emotional Intelligence
I met Bramford on a Tuesday afternoon. They’d come in asking about emotional intelligence like someone asking a mechanic if their car could possibly run better—hopeful but sceptical, as if the answer might require a complete engine overhaul they couldn’t […]
In the Therapy Room - Monica Dean
In the Therapy Room: The Paradox of Longing for Romantic Intimacy
The Tuesday Afternoon Realization 🤔 I met Brynja on a Tuesday afternoon when Manchester was doing that thing it does—grey skies threatening rain but never quite committing. She walked in with the sort of composure that immediately told me she’d […]
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In the Therapy Room: Understanding Attachment Styles and the Pitfalls of Codependency
A Tuesday Afternoon in the Therapy Room 🪑 Bramwyn arrived on a Tuesday afternoon with the particular exhaustion of someone trying to solve a puzzle using pieces from someone else’s box. He wanted to understand his ex-partner—specifically whether she had […]
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In the Therapy Room: The Architecture of Self-Protection and the Invisible Costs of Solitude
We start to believe that our trauma has revealed something true about us, rather than something true about what we endured.
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In the Therapy Room: Navigating Avoidant Attachment and Intimacy in Relationships
The Dance of Distance and Desire đź’” I met Brynhild on a Tuesday afternoon in a Manchester café—not my office, but somewhere they felt safer. They ordered a flat white and immediately began explaining their relationship with the precision of […]
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In the Therapy Room: Navigating the Complexity of Human Connection and Emotional Honesty in Friendships
I met Tessa in a cafĂ© on Deansgate, where she’d cornered me after overhearing a conversation about emotional honesty. She had that look I’ve come to recognize—someone who’s been running the same mental loop for weeks, desperately trying to solve […]
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In the Therapy Room: Avoidant Attachment Patterns
I met Bryson on a drizzly Tuesday at a cafe near Piccadilly Gardens. He’d been referred by a friend who said he “needed to talk to someone who wouldn’t just tell him to download another meditation app.” Within ten minutes […]