There’s a particular breed of social warfare that happens when female friendships implode, and watching it unfold is like witnessing a carefully choreographed demolition. The precision is almost artistic—every social connection severed with surgical accuracy, every mutual friend recruited as […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’m Learning to Set Boundaries Without the Guilt.
There I was, sitting in my favorite café on East 67th, watching Sarah—a brilliant corporate lawyer who’d just negotiated a merger worth more than most people’s entire net worth—agonize over whether she was a terrible person for wanting to […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’ve Spent Two Decades Studying Attraction: It’s About Presence
Picture this: You’re at that wine bar on the Upper East Side where the lighting makes everyone look mysteriously attractive and the conversation flows as smoothly as the overpriced Sancerre. Across from you sits someone who checks every box on […]
Dating - Lola Adams
“Your Dating Life’s Groundhog Day”
She sits across from me, late-thirties, fingernails tapping on her Manhattan whiskey neat. “I attract emotionally unavailable men like I’ve got some kind of beacon. Last night I found myself googling his ex at 2 AM while he slept next […]
Dating - Heartbreak - Lola Adams
“I’m Dating My Issues Again”
She’s standing at the corner of West 4th and Sixth, coffee in hand, scrolling through her phone. It’s the fourth first date she’s had this month. Each one started with promise, built to what seemed like real connection, then evaporated […]
Dating - Lola Adams
“I’m Swiping Blind to Insanity”
It’s 11:42 PM on a Tuesday, and you’re swiping through dating profiles with the enthusiasm of someone filing their taxes. Each face blurs into the next as you mechanically judge strangers based on carefully curated photos and bios that read […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’m Dating Myself
Picture it: happy hour, midtown Manhattan. You’re perched on an overpriced barstool, listening to your friend describe their fifth mediocre date this month. “They were perfectly nice,” they sigh, swirling an artisanal cocktail. “Great job, attractive, funny. But I just […]
Dating - Heartbreak - Lola Adams
“Damn, I’m A Hot Mess Inside”
The High-Functioning Heartbreak: Why Success Doesn’t Translate to Love Picture it: You’re standing in your meticulously designed living room, swirling an absurdly expensive glass of wine you can absolutely afford, staring at your phone. The dating app that promised to […]
Dating - Sophia Rivera
“I’m Not Your Mirror Image”
Ever wonder why that perfect-on-paper relationship feels completely wrong? Or why your counselor’s well-meaning suggestion to “find someone more compatible” falls flat? After reviewing piles of recent relationship research, I’ve spotted the pattern academics keep dancing around but never quite […]
Dating - Sophia Rivera
“I’m A Primal Mess”
Why is it so damn hard to reject someone or be rejected? I’ve spent two decades studying this question, and the research reveals something fascinating that most people miss: rejection isn’t just an emotional experience—it’s a biological one. Our brains […]