🛋️ The Problem Behind the Problem You know those moments when someone says something so earnestly that you have to mentally count to three before responding? That was me when Tessa, a bright-eyed 19-year-old psychology major, finally blurted out what […]
In the Therapy Room: Asymmetrical Desire
The Intimacy Paradox 💔 Trevor sat across from me, hands fidgeting with the edge of his jacket. The weight of two decades of marriage seemed to hang from his shoulders. “It’s not that I don’t love her,” he said, his […]
In the Therapy Room: When Trust Breaks Twice
The Ghost of Betrayals Past 👻 Last Tuesday, I watched Brooke fold herself into the armchair across from me like origami—each movement deliberate, as if she might shatter if she moved too quickly. She’d spent the weekend discovering her boyfriend […]
Therapy Confessions: The Battle of Boundaries
The man arrived at the hunting cabin with all the essentials: three logs for the fire, a fifth of whiskey in his pack, and a face that said he’d rather be anywhere else. 🏕️ He wore his displeasure like an […]
Therapy Confessions: The Desire Gap
🧩 The Desire Gap Is Rarely About Desire Imagine spending seven years with someone who looks at you like a slightly interesting puzzle they’ve already solved. Picture a woman who texts you after two glasses of wine to say she’d […]
Therapy Confessions: Reducing Humans to Statistics in Modern Dating
When Humans Become Data Points 📊 It was three cocktails into our session when Kaeden leaned back on my vintage Herman Miller chair—the one that’s seen more relationship breakdowns than a season finale of The Bachelor—and sighed with that particular […]
Therapy Confessions: When Your Pleasure is Programmed Out of Reach
The first time Ethan K. walked into my office, he carried himself with the confident stride of someone who had everything figured out. Designer watch, perfect haircut, shoes that cost more than my couch. 💼 But beneath that meticulously crafted […]
Therapy Confessions: The Dating Skills Nobody Taught You
🧠 The Emotional Regulation Nobody Talks About Emily P. was fascinating to work with – brilliant at her job as a pediatric surgeon, capable of extraordinary focus during 12-hour operations, yet completely undone by a Tinder match who took more […]
“I’m Not Wanted Anymore”
I was chatting with a couple last week in my favorite coffee spot in Didsbury. I’d known them both for years, and after a bit of small talk, he leaned forward and whispered, “Mon, the physical side of our marriage […]
“I’m Not Your Sex Therapist, But…You’re Doing It Wrong”
Ever noticed how we talk about sex and intimacy separately? Like they’re two different planets that occasionally align? I’ve spent 20 years watching couples struggle with what research already knows: emotional intimacy and sexual desire are locked in a dance […]
