POV: you finally admit to yourself that you’re not just “tired” after the 17th night of scrolling TikTok for 3 hours instead of doing literally anything you used to enjoy… Let me put you onto something: that feeling when basic […]
Charles McElroy - Relationships
Integration: The Solution to Competing Drives in Relationship Dynamics
A client recently confided: “I used to sleep in a separate room from my ex. We were basically roommates, hanging out like friends, then retreating to our own spaces. Now I have a partner who truly loves and respects me, […]
Heartbreak - Lola Adams - Workplaces
“I’m Not Crazy, That Happened….Right?”
It was Thursday night, and Mia was staring at her phone, crafting what she believed was a casual text to her coworker Alex. The same Alex she’d been having lunch with three times a week “by coincidence.” The same Alex […]
Families - Jas Mendola - Narcisism
The Silent Epidemic Destroying Fathers
The scene replays the same way thousands of times. A man sits across from me, eyes fixed on the floor. His hands grip his knees like they might give way. He has not cried yet, but he will. He came […]
Families - Jas Mendola - Narcisism
The Family Pack Hunt
They circled silently, testing for weakness. The mother’s eyes narrowed as I set my boundary, her words soft but laced with venom. She hesitated, calculating. Then my father entered the room. His presence changed everything. Suddenly she stood taller, spoke […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’ve Watched Countless Female Friendships Implode, and I’ve Come to a Stunning Realization
There’s a particular breed of social warfare that happens when female friendships implode, and watching it unfold is like witnessing a carefully choreographed demolition. The precision is almost artistic—every social connection severed with surgical accuracy, every mutual friend recruited as […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’m Learning to Set Boundaries Without the Guilt.
There I was, sitting in my favorite café on East 67th, watching Sarah—a brilliant corporate lawyer who’d just negotiated a merger worth more than most people’s entire net worth—agonize over whether she was a terrible person for wanting to […]
Heartbreak - Lola Adams
I’m Learning to Grieve in a World Where Everyone Has an Opinion About My Love and My Loss
Picture this: You’re standing in your childhood living room, surrounded by extended family who haven’t spoken to each other since the Clinton administration, all pretending to celebrate the life of someone you loved. The shrine you’ve carefully constructed—the flowers, the […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’ve Spent Two Decades Studying Attraction: It’s About Presence
Picture this: You’re at that wine bar on the Upper East Side where the lighting makes everyone look mysteriously attractive and the conversation flows as smoothly as the overpriced Sancerre. Across from you sits someone who checks every box on […]
Marriage - Monica Dean
“The Pre-Nup Problem”
The other night I was sitting with Jenna at our usual spot in The Crown. Over our third gin and tonic, she finally admitted what was really bothering her. Her brother’s getting married in September, and the family’s in a […]