There’s a particular breed of social warfare that happens when female friendships implode, and watching it unfold is like witnessing a carefully choreographed demolition. The precision is almost artistic—every social connection severed with surgical accuracy, every mutual friend recruited as […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’m Learning to Set Boundaries Without the Guilt.
There I was, sitting in my favorite café on East 67th, watching Sarah—a brilliant corporate lawyer who’d just negotiated a merger worth more than most people’s entire net worth—agonize over whether she was a terrible person for wanting to […]
Heartbreak - Lola Adams
I’m Learning to Grieve in a World Where Everyone Has an Opinion About My Love and My Loss
Picture this: You’re standing in your childhood living room, surrounded by extended family who haven’t spoken to each other since the Clinton administration, all pretending to celebrate the life of someone you loved. The shrine you’ve carefully constructed—the flowers, the […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’ve Spent Two Decades Studying Attraction, and I’ve Come to a Surprising Conclusion: It’s Not About Being Good or Bad, It’s About Presence
Picture this: You’re at that wine bar on the Upper East Side where the lighting makes everyone look mysteriously attractive and the conversation flows as smoothly as the overpriced Sancerre. Across from you sits someone who checks every box on […]
Heartbreak - Lola Adams
“I’m Still Not Over Him”
There she is again. You’re scrolling through Instagram at 1 AM, wine glass in hand, when you see her—the girlfriend. The one who gets to spend Saturday mornings with your former best friend, the one he’s apparently willing to restructure […]
Dating - Lola Adams
“Your Dating Life’s Groundhog Day”
She sits across from me, late-thirties, fingernails tapping on her Manhattan whiskey neat. “I attract emotionally unavailable men like I’ve got some kind of beacon. Last night I found myself googling his ex at 2 AM while he slept next […]
Dating - Heartbreak - Lola Adams
“I’m Dating My Issues Again”
She’s standing at the corner of West 4th and Sixth, coffee in hand, scrolling through her phone. It’s the fourth first date she’s had this month. Each one started with promise, built to what seemed like real connection, then evaporated […]
Dating - Lola Adams
“I’m Swiping Blind to Insanity”
It’s 11:42 PM on a Tuesday, and you’re swiping through dating profiles with the enthusiasm of someone filing their taxes. Each face blurs into the next as you mechanically judge strangers based on carefully curated photos and bios that read […]
Dating - Lola Adams
I’m Dating Myself Wrong
Picture it: happy hour, midtown Manhattan. You’re perched on an overpriced barstool, listening to your friend describe their fifth mediocre date this month. “They were perfectly nice,” they sigh, swirling an artisanal cocktail. “Great job, attractive, funny. But I just […]
Dating - Lola Adams
“Damn, I’m A Hot Mess Inside”
The High-Functioning Heartbreak: Why Success Doesn’t Translate to Love Picture it: You’re standing in your meticulously designed living room, swirling an absurdly expensive glass of wine you can absolutely afford, staring at your phone. The dating app that promised to […]