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POV: You finally stand up to your narcissistic parent and a voice you barely recognize comes out 💥

Let me put you onto something that research shows but no one is talking about… When you confront your abuser and suddenly feel like you’re watching yourself from outside your body? That’s not you losing control – it’s your emotional system finally gaining it.

This isn’t just about “setting boundaries” (though we love those) – it’s about your brain literally rewiring those emotional bytes that got scrambled during childhood trauma.

🚩 Red Flags That You’re Still In The Trauma Script:

• You rehearse confrontations in your head but freeze when face-to-face
• The guilt hits before you even finish standing up for yourself
• You keep accepting the “I did it because you were bad” narrative 💀

The truth is: that voice that finally screamed back? It’s not “losing control” – it’s your protective system FINALLY working as intended.

✨ Green Flags Your Inner Child Is Healing:

1. You set a boundary and don’t immediately apologize for existing

2. Your body physically rejects the gaslighting – that nausea when someone tries the “you were just a difficult child” line isn’t anxiety, it’s your emotional bytes recognizing the lie 🤢

3. You feel zero obligation to manage their emotions while they never managed yours

It’s giving main character energy, but not in the TikTok aesthetic way – in the “I’m finally the protagonist of my own life” way.

That feeling when your parent suddenly acts all small and wounded after you call them out? Pure manipulation, no cap. Studies show narcissists immediately switch to victimhood when their image is threatened.

Reminder: Your anger isn’t “too much” – it’s been waiting in the emotional queue since you were eight years old. 🥲

Think about it like that trend where people recreate childhood photos as adults – except you’re recreating the moment you should have been protected, but this time with your adult voice.

What if that “harsh” voice isn’t harsh at all – what if it’s just proportional to what happened but feels extreme because you’ve been conditioned to minimize yourself? 🤔

We’re not being “dramatic” – we’re finally having an appropriate emotional response to the inappropriate things that happened to us.

– Melanie Doss

Still processing that this is literally the most normal response to abnormal treatment… and that’s the tea ☕