Trauma isn’t something we just get over. It’s something that fundamentally changes how we relate to others. After analyzing decades of research on trauma and relationships, I’ve noticed something remarkable that researchers dance around but rarely state plainly: trauma doesn’t […]
Dating - Lola Adams
“Damn, I’m A Hot Mess Inside”
The High-Functioning Heartbreak: Why Success Doesn’t Translate to Love Picture it: You’re standing in your meticulously designed living room, swirling an absurdly expensive glass of wine you can absolutely afford, staring at your phone. The dating app that promised to […]
Relationships - Sophia Rivera
“I’m Cheating on You”
Ever notice how we obsess over whether emotional cheating is “real” cheating? I’ve spent two decades watching researchers dance around what’s actually happening when someone forms an intimate emotional connection outside their relationship. The research is clear but nobody’s saying […]
Dating - Sophia Rivera
“I’m Not Your Mirror Image”
Ever wonder why that perfect-on-paper relationship feels completely wrong? Or why your counselor’s well-meaning suggestion to “find someone more compatible” falls flat? After reviewing piles of recent relationship research, I’ve spotted the pattern academics keep dancing around but never quite […]
Relationships - Sophia Rivera
“I’m Still Rewiring Myself”
Here’s something research never directly discusses when examining infidelity: being cheated on isn’t just about heartbreak—it’s a full-blown identity crisis that fundamentally rewires your brain and body. I’ve reviewed dozens of studies on infidelity’s aftermath, and they all dance around […]
Dating - Sophia Rivera
“I’m A Primal Mess”
Why is it so damn hard to reject someone or be rejected? I’ve spent two decades studying this question, and the research reveals something fascinating that most people miss: rejection isn’t just an emotional experience—it’s a biological one. Our brains […]
Dating - Melanie Doss - Relationships
“My Family Hates My Baeee”
The Relationship Crossroads No One Prepared You For: Navigating Cultural Differences When Your Parents Don’t Approve POV: You’re madly in love but every family dinner feels like walking through an emotional minefield. Your parents keep dropping hints about “someone more […]
Relationships - Sophia Rivera
“I’m Building Walls, Sorry”
Ever wonder why “personal space” gets so complicated in relationships? Yeah, me too. After digging through five different research papers on relationship dynamics, I’ve spotted something fascinating that none of them directly addresses: we’re terrible at distinguishing between boundaries and […]
Relationships - Sophia Rivera
“I’m Clearly the Exception”
Ever stood in front of your partner, mouth agape, wondering how they could possibly criticize you for something they do all the time? Welcome to the wild world of relationship double standards – that maddening phenomenon where the same behavior […]
Dating - Sophia Rivera
“I’m Still Dating Mom”
Ever wondered why we keep running into the same relationship issues despite promising ourselves “never again”? Research shows it’s not about picking the wrong partners – it’s about the invisible emotional blueprints encoded in our brain during childhood. Your Childhood […]